Practicing healthy dating keeps your expectations in check to avoid early heartbreak while also giving you a chance to find the one you’ve been looking for.Part of the Prince Charming true love theory is that love just happens.
I decided to take a step back so that I could take a fresh step forward.The trouble is, rather than preparing me to get back out there, my dating fast became a reason not to date at all.Tired of the disappointments, false starts, and no-gos that seemed inherent in dating, I swore it off altogether.I told myself this was just a break, a dating "fast" if you will, an opportunity for self-reflection and a chance to recalibrate.Cronin identified three groups of students in the college dating scene: people hooking up; couples partaking in codependent, pseudo-married relationships; and single people opting out of dating altogether.
These people who “opt out” are either too busy or just can’t seem to find the right person, so they give up.
When it comes to dating, I’ve found that you don’t even have to go on a date to feel emotionally exhausted.
So many of us have had enough ambiguously platonic “hangouts” to feel romantically hopeless—without ever even entering into real dating territory. I found myself in just such a situation not too long ago.
The truth is, somewhere between the avoidant dating fast and the forced forty days of dating, is the healthy practice of casual dating.
A practice that, if you take Cronin’s advice, can be far more rewarding than a break from dating will ever be.
It doesn’t require pursuing or effort and it definitely doesn’t require dating.